The Dementia Dimension

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Dementia. It makes your heart sink knowing, or guessing, what is to come.

We have learnt in this world that it means loss, confusion, endings and suffering, for those with it and those watching it happen.  So I want to tell you that actually this is not the whole story. There are some untold truths and what I can only describe as magic that I really have to tell you about as I have watched the lady that is closest to me slip away from this world into another, a world of dementia.

 

Alice.

 

She was always a beautiful lady of her time. Her radiance and glamour of her life had etched itself into her tell-tale lines and glorious smile. Her body shape told her tales, and her eyes held a book of a life full of adventure, love, laughter and sorrow.

 

One day, as a 79 year old, she was celebrating her 59th wedding anniversary with her husband and I came over to visit and share in their celebrations.  They forgot to tell me that this was the day when the long awaited appointment of the specialist was visiting.  So I quietly waited in the room next door as he was rounding up his visit.

 

“So yes, as you thought Alice you have early onset of dementia….”  I obviously knew it.  My dad knew it and my mum knew it, it had been happening very gradually for a while now.  But hearing those words were a line in the sand.  There was no going back, only forward, forward to path of the demise of what we knew of Alice.  This was three years ago.

 

I realised she was disappearing as the woman I knew but over time I started to realise there was so much more to this story.  Her eyes told me something different …sometimes they were alight. Through the vacant stares there was a flicker of a secret like a neon sign momentarily brightening up the darkness.  The sign flickers so quickly that you have to be totally present to catch it and it was just one day, one day of looking into her eyes when I saw it. It’s something like this  “I’m vacating this body and this dimension as I’m somewhere else now …somewhere amazing!”

 

It’s the last bit that us simple humans and family members don’t get as we’re left behind. With our two-dimensional thinking we assume dementia sufferers are ‘just disappearing’ and feel constant loss and defeat. There is so much we haven’t realised as we have looked upon science as an answer and we have denied giving our hearts eyes – when actually if you do look with your heart you really can see new truths.  These truths actually make more sense as we all know ‘nature abhors a volume’, meaning nothing in our lives just disappears, it’s a law of nature.

 

By having a connection with this one I love, by being open enough to see the magic in life, I have seen it.  And wow it is truly magnificent!  In this other dimension they are in the place full of love.  They dance, they laugh, they connect with the spirit of others and they time travel.  They go through time looking for the fun, back through their book of life and they create new beginnings and new endings.  They are the creators now of their new world with endless possibilities.

 

So it does get really confusing as they are yanked back into this dimension.  That is when they get a bit lost and can’t join the dots as frankly they would much rather be in the other world.  In this place their body isn’t preventing them from moving to the beat of life like it always had and their energy is boundless like a child! Even more importantly the logic of their mind isn’t needed in this realm.  They are free to just be who they want to be.

 

When this lady that I love is pulled back into this earthly dimension she is forced to meet expectations that she can no longer meet.  She is presented with a tirade of demands which span her into a mêlée of constant frustration and disappointment.  This is mirrored by her most loved ones, the ones she cherishes and recognizes first and foremost, and all she sees on their faces are a reflection of the disappointment and frustration she experiences.  One of those faces was mine.  I used to give her a look of disappointment or sadness as my needs from her weren’t being met like they used to be, like for advice or just comforting mother and daughter ‘stuff’.

 

So learning about this whole new world, this new dimension also freed me.  Gradually it started to make sense especially when I saw her joy of freedom.  So I learnt to be patient. If I saw she was in this other place I was happy if she wanted to hang around there, I got it.  I totally understood why she would choose to be there instead of here. Instead I went through a process of acceptance with the comfort of the gifts she was giving me (another truth I have discovered) so I could confidently and knowingly only give her a look of love.  Which she always gleefully beamed back at me.  Whether she knew who I was or who she was, it was irrelevant.  In fact it sometimes felt my reality was irrelevant and I was there too.

 

The Secret Gift

 

The other clue to this method of departure through the dementia dimension are the gifts they leave us. Those they love.

 

So the more time they spend in this other dimension the more they stay there. They have to choose parts of their personality and memories that need to stay here, to carry on their life’s work, so they gift it to their selected hosts when both parties are ready.  They know the time is right and when they are certain they won’t need these attributes anymore in this realm and they are ready to let go; they look deep into the eyes of their host and pass that magical energy through to them. The gift is then unknowingly unwrapped by the host.

 

It happened to me.  One day, as I pondered about parts of her personality and her energy and where they were currently residing as they were so absent from this world I got a stark realisation. This beautiful lady had cleverly without me knowing, gifted me with this energy and parts of her.  They were so well defined that it was unmistakable, and so clear that the prompt arrival of these attributes for me were also the prompt departure of them her.  I would never see this side to her again, but of course this energy was now resided in me so I have to honour that and enjoy it and let sadness float in and out of my consciousness and not hold on to it.

 

For me I started to discover quirks that were very defined and yet new to my repertoire. I had vague interests but suddenly they became so vivid and urgent. Suddenly I had parts of me that were totally new and yet so so familiar.  Antiques, furniture restoration, photographs in frames everywhere, a particular taste in art, tenacious with my career and always busy, always fun seeking…All so ridiculously familiar.

 

I’d watched this lady growing up. I used to be in awe of her sense of herself, how she knew what she wanted and used to go out there and get it. Always with a smile despite the adversity she often faced as life threw its twists and turns.

How she’d walk into a room and lit it up with presence, her wit and her charm. These parts of her I loved. Even as I was dragged around antique fairs most weekends or spent many a day helping with waxing furniture or painting picture frames …I was with my mum and she was amazing. Everyone loved her, she was effervescent, loving, charming and fun.

 

This human realm is quite a short visit so now it is my time to let go of what was.  I need to now embrace the newness of what I have been gifted.  I need to dance a new tune of the young and old, understanding and appreciating the flow of magic that we are all so lucky to behold.  Luckily I believe in the magic as I’ve seen it in her eyes and in my dreams and in the moments in between…. so I can hear the tune and I am dancing to it.  Thank you mum, with all my heart.

 

 

 

 

 

Get a grip girl, you’re doing great!

That sounds a bit harsh maybe, but may be you are where I’ve been lately and you need a big WAKE UP nudge. Luckily I had my epiphany this week so felt I needed to share in case this helps you.  Life has provided me with some challenges lately which it handed to me on a big shovel and said “go on then, put your money where your mouth is…”

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It was tough. Without going into the detail of all the different things I felt I had ‘lost’ in one go I decided to let it define me. So I lost me too. That is the harshest experience for us humans, if we go through tough times we can find resilience and magic and come out the other side but sometimes we get caught up in all the negative thoughts and dramas of life and believe that they are true. This is when we then choose Fear over Love.

So I started waking up in the mornings with a feeling of dread, the world seemed so doomed. I was stressed easily, I felt angry most of the time and I was crying lots and in my warped alternative reality everyone was happier and better than me.  What made it worse for me was knowing I knew better as I teach others in mindfulness and self care so I knew I was caught in the dramas …but this then neatly confirmed I was a failure. The power of the doubting voice?!  This was my call for love.  So then my final crack in my heart was the decision I wasn’t going to write again!

…WTF???? I don’t think so!

Luckily I do know better. The writing abyss was motivation alone to get me back to myself. So I have been downloading and reading some of the greatest and the newest in my field to help me find my way. Then the biggest shift that has planted my feet back on safe ground is the simple realisation that I had fallen out of love with me.

You know that person that you really don’t like as you feel they may have wronged you in some way? Could be at work, an ex or a family member….and anything they do seems to be an attack or irritation. This is you shutting your heart out to them and not loving them, which actually hurts you too. Forgiveness is a huge topic that I am not going to go on about now but to be honest Nelson Mandela coins it

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies”

Well that enemy had been me, it was me I had closed my heart to and it was me I had started to blame and resent. So the poison was particularly potent.

As soon as I realised this I cried (again!!) at how horrible I had been to myself, I apologised and I forgave myself and will continue to do so daily as this is important self care. The daily self care routine is back on!  Back to my inner sassy 4 year old 😀

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Mr Mandela also must have wanted to tell me something too as I googled the correct wording for his quote above and this one came up which I haven’t noticed before;

“Do not judge me by my successes,
judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.”

Ok, well I’m up again life. Standing tall, full of love and ready for the magic. I’m back ❤️

Fire Fire

The burning question…” What would you take out with you if your house was on fire?”

I’ve had this asked to me several times and pondered about it; I’ve always thought instantly I’d grab old photographs of course…the ones before the digital era.  And some old jewellery that’s been in the family for a long while.  Oh, and my laptop, phone and handbag.  Especially my laptop with the starting of my book emerging which has been squeezed out of me over the last few months.  I sometimes would think which order would I get them in and would I take risks to get them.  I’ve heard stories about people that didn’t take their pictures and thought how strange they wouldn’t have thought of that.

Last night it happened to me.  The running out of a burning building and so my theories were put to the test….and I took nothing.  Absolutely nothing, not even a coat and shoes on a night that was promising to be a scene from Siberia.  My priority I discovered at this time was life.  Pure life, just us.  In that moment in time I wanted for nothing, absolutely nothing; the clarity was as stark as it was pure and so insightful.  I was very aware that everything had the potential of being destroyed but I honestly didn’t care. I had my son and my partner safe and that was like winning the lottery right then.  Thank you.

The second thing I learnt was I turned into “a beast” or “wild woman” in the words of my 11-year old.  Once I knew we were safe and had called the fire heroes my attention was directed to our lovely neighbours trapped in their home which was where the fire was raging.  We spent those agonising minutes before the fire crew arrived trying to crawl into their flat and communicate with them and smash their windows with bins or paint pots …. all to no avail.  My son made sure neither I nor my partner did anything silly like run into a burning building – it is a human condition you see, to protect others.  We all do it in our misguided ways but then along comes those that are trained in it, trained to step into those blazing fires and miraculously see through thick black menacing smoke that is something that is quite unique to this house consuming flame.  Somehow, they work out a layout that is blind to them, endure heat that is painful and seek those that need to be given another chance in life.  We watched in absolute breath-holding moments as this crew, three fire engines worth, managed to save these two familiar figures from the engulfing flames.

It is honestly indescribable the amount of love and gratitude I have for these firemen, taking me a step closer to empathising more wholly to the atrocities of Grenfell Towers.  Thank you

The last thing I learnt that I wish to share is “love thy neighbour”.  One family embraced us into their lives like we had known them from birth. We hardly knew them, only they live next door, are from Poland and smile sweetly as we pass one another every now and then. They literally gave us their shirts from their backs, they protected my son, they made us a bed on their sofa, endured police knocking several times in the early hours to talk to us and even got up early to buy us fresh bakery products to help entice our shocked bodies into action. I can’t tell you how much this meant to us, you made sense out of something nonsensical and confirmed what I already knew; we are all one connected with an invisible thread of love that keeps us safe and protects us and feeling separate from someone we don’t know is an illusion.  It’s the opposite, it is humbling and it is quite magical.  Thank you

 

7 TOP TIPS to surviving and thriving in the dating world

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So the million dollar question; dating is about finding the right guy or gal to live happily ever after with right?

Nope. That is probably a long term aspiration but honestly, that is not the main immediate aim and nor should it be. If you drop that expectation at the Dating Door you will have so much more fun! The following tips will help you to understand how to get the most out of being single and ready to date.

It is a minefield. Before I married, twice, and divorced, twice, I had never actually gone on a date with anyone I hadn’t married. So it was very new to me. I discovered a whole new world, at the age of 40, and actually realised that with the mixture of my relentless curiosity, faith in love and men, and my fast-tracking of reinvention of the single me, actually made me quite an expert dater!  My initiation was a bambi-on-ice but I soon found my feet, and actually had an absolute ball – seriously I’ve had more fun being single in the last three years than in my whole life.

Don’t get me wrong, three years of partying, Tinder, Match.com and single holidays although totally hedonistic at times, also came with massive dollops of rejection and heartbreak too.  Dating and casual flings doesn’t stop cupid firing his bow and soulmates to present themselves in all their short-lived momentarily glory.  But however much pain you go through with kissing the perfect partner but only for the perfect moment and however much the journey can be uncomfortable from magnifying your insecurities, weeping into your pillow at night to playing with all sorts of view points of what being lonely means – it does exactly what it is meant to do.

So buckle up and enjoy the ride, being mindful of these seven basic misunderstandings in the dating game.

  1. They Are Not Your Enemy. You are all in the same boat.  Just at different stages coming out of unfulfilling relationships. Some people are ready to commit and some aren’t, there is no wrong or right. Men and women do have a very different approach to it all, but you still all want the same thing….
  1. Good Company! Being single definitely has lonely moments. So whether the company turns into ‘just sex’, ‘texting at night times but never actually meeting’ or ‘full on dating’ who knows, but that all depends on where you are both at at that time and whether you have some sort of connection.  And this is definitely the same for men, they might appear to just want sex, but actually they want your company first!
  1. The Harsh Realties. Wanting your company doesn’t mean they want to date you. Rejection is part of the path of acceptance.
  1. The Beauty of Acceptance. By losing the expectations you lose the confusion. I have met the most amazing men and not-so amazing ones too. If it hadn’t been for everyone of these funny, disastrous or magical dates I wouldn’t be where I am today. Each experience has either forced me to lift a stone I didn’t want to and/or shone a light on my brilliance, which was so hidden before.  The guys I met were part of the dating cycle and none of them were meant to be my forever man because that is the whole point of dating.  You are actually dating you. You are getting to know you. What you want and what you don’t want.
  1. Being True to Yourself. This is so important.  Don’t be lulled into the game-playing advice you can get on the internet or in books – as it really isn’t a game it’s real life. These guys or gals you are dating are real.  And you will never grow or learn about yourself if you play games with each other.  Yes, it does mean you being more vulnerable, but a flower will only bloom by opening its petals however difficult that may seem right now.
  1. Get Yourself a Dating Buddy.  This is for safety and sanity!  He or she can be single too or in a relationship and will be your go-to, your advice and support. You may have several. It is also important for safety so they know what you are up to as after all dating candidates are strangers to begin with. Dating buddies will also be the ones you end up in fits of laughter at your latest dating escapade such as how a vegetarian ends up on two dates in a week, one with a butcher and then a guy that worked in an abattoir!! (yes this did actually happen!!)
  1. Be Grateful for The Single Now. Being single is a privilege.  It is an indulgent time of just doing and being everything you ever wanted to do and be. There is definitely something magical about that and the limitless possibilities. But it is temporary. That important next guy or gal you are going to fall in love with is just around the corner, so make the most of this dating freedom by having endless fun!!!  Enjoy 😉

 

 

 

 

I’m a child in a heart beat

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When I was younger, a child, I used to listen to my pillow every night. In my pillow lived a magical lady walking up and down a path of shingle. I pondered every time I heard her; did she have a huge path in front of her cottage? where was she going? and why did she never get there?… but I always fell asleep wondering. I loved it when she visited me as I felt calm, peaceful and loved.

As an adult I discovered, almost as if I always actually knew, that of course this constant flow of movement and beat was my heart beat. Every night as I put my ear to my pillow the rhythm of my life pumping through my body would send me to sleep.

Children’s wonder is magical, it’s filled with possibilities, with comfort and with joy. They know deep down, as did I, the facts – but they seem to know so much more!! They are not confined to restrictive ways of thinking but just explore to their hearts content which gives them truths, truths as adults we struggle to understand.

Now I am an adult.
I was just listening to a voice memo I recorded recently of the the waves greeting me as I walked along the beach. I recorded it so I could listen to the sea whenever I wanted to. I felt I wanted to hear it just now, for the first time, sitting in my kitchen.

There I was, the lady walking on the stones, with the rush of waves washing in and washing out to a unique rhythm. It was unmistakable, identical and made me freeze with disbelief. I then felt relief as finally after all these years my puzzle was solved “oh of course the magical lady was me by the sea!! That’s why she never stopped”

Where do we begin and where do we end.
The world’s wonders are truly inside of us…In a moment I am united with the sea, with my child-self and with my heartbeat.

Was I a child listening to my adult self walking on the beach?

And am I an adult listening to my child-like heart beating in synchronicity with the ocean?

Oh the magic is infinite xxx

Pssst….Here’s the secret to making your dreams come true!

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Spring is finally making itself known with blossom petals covering us as my son and I walk to school and the sun is starting to warm up with promises of summer fun.  It’s my favourite time of year! :)

At this time of year we find ourselves revisiting all those new year resolutions from those chillier months not so long ago in another attempt to get fit, eat healthily, change our jobs, do things differently …all ready for the summer.

  • But what if we didn’t just seek a quick fix?
  • What if we could make these changes permanent, dramatically making our lives better and brighter?
  • What if permanent happiness was possible right now?

Visioning and vision boards are a powerful way to make changes become a reality, sometimes immediately! Used with a meditation philosophy (I use and teach a modern meditation technique called Mind Calm) you can identify what changes you really want to make in your life and what truly makes your heart sing…you’ll probably be very surprised as it never is what you think!  I call this process ‘giving your heart eyes’.

To really help you understand the principles of putting together a vision board I have been interviewed in a free Podcast for the SuperMum programme and it’s a 35minute show on how visioning really can improve your life.  I have attached it to this blog, so sit back and enjoy!  (NB The SuperMum podcast programme is being launched in a couple of months, we have just been given this early as a lovely gift from Lisa York, SuperMum founder)

And if you want to know more, please get in touch. I’m also holding two afternoon workshops in June to get you started, just click on the dates below for more information.

Saturday 18 June, Introduction to Mind Calm

Saturday 25 June, Introduction to Your Dreams Start Now!

Fancy an insightful laugh? – Then ask your child too!

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Well as promised below are the same set of questions I published recently, but with my 8 yr old son answering! It is so interesting getting into the head of child. If you are a parent or aunt/uncle I recommend you try this out with your child – just play with it. Make sure they know that you’ve done the questions also (so they feel valued rather than interrogated) and just be casual and let them take the lead with it and try not to comment or put words in their mouth as there is definitely no right or wrong with this one! It is so insightful as you lose the filters of family roles so you can see this mini human for who they really are in this big lovely world. We both had really good fun doing it!! The cat one is my favourite

Who is your biggest inspiration?

Well lots of people. So if I was climbing a mountain it would be someone special at mountain climbing, if I was doing a maths test I’d think of someone clever, If I was doing race for life I would think of someone that had cancer and if I was scared of a spider I would think of someone like Steve Backshall and what he would do.

What have you learnt about yourself as you’ve got older?

Adults have been alive longer and know more and are wiser but children have a lot of stuff we can do that adults can’t like climbing in small spaces or get a ball and we know things that adults don’t. As adults are wiser we can tell each other different things and we both become equal and help each other.

If you had to give one piece of life-changing advice what would it be?

Be open-minded and think whatever happens is because the world has something better for you. So if you want one job and you don’t get it it’s because god is thinking of something better for you even though you may love that job.

How do you make a good decision?

I’d choose the opposite of what you (his mum!) choose – then we both try different things.

If you weren’t you who would you be?

A cat. It would be great as people would look after me, I could have a lazy life, I could go outside and be adventurous, I could eat what I want, I could meeow and I’ll get more food!

Optimist or pessimist? (see things in a happy way or unhappy way)

In-between. If it’s a sunny day I would be happy and excited as we could go to the beach but if it was a rainy day I might be cross.

What is the key to a happy life?

Think positive and if you don’t want to go to school you would have to and if you think about it you would probably miss lots of fun. Always do something that you don’t want to do.

Have fun xxx

Ask yourself how you are doing

 

Derek Mills is an amazing man with a IMG_1274wonderful story of being at rock bottom in his life and turning it completely around by creating his daily standards. He really inspired me when I was privileged enough to attend one of his workshops … and most importantly is just such a lovely genuine guy!!! His book is 10 Second Philosophy is definitely one of my all-time favourites. Recently he was interviewed in Psychologies Magazine and he posted the article attached on his facebook page encouraging others to ask themselves the same questions. So I am passing this on to you. I have my answers below and I found it really poignant and healthy to do a stock check of where I am in my life. I then did it with my son which I will publish next – it’s a must read!

Please write what you find you gain from asking yourself these questions in the comments box below, I’d love to know.

Who is your biggest inspiration?

My son. His innocence, mistakes, wisdom and his awe of life are so inspirational. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes being a parent, and especially a single parent, is such hard work. It is so daunting and scary as you desperately want to do the right thing and their behaviour is so alien to you and so fragile and unscripted that you just don’t have any preparation for it…. it is these moments that he inspires me the most. In these moments he teaches me that love is unconditional and that both of us are allowed to make mistakes.

What have you learnt about yourself as you’ve got older?

That I’m absolutely OK just the way I am. I appreciate everything I have now rather than the opposite way I used to be which was believing I needed to be a perfect someone in the future and needed to change me. Perfection is an illusion that doesn’t exist so you are putting off living a happy life. I like my traits now and the more I like them the more I attract the people into my life that like me just as I am. And those that don’t get me (and I may not get them) seem to just not be around so much anymore or don’t stick around.

If you had to give one piece of life-changing advice what would it be?

To be aware, and connected to, your true Self in this precious moment. Our ‘being human’ defaults to spending our lives with our head spinning in stories of the past or fretting over fictional worries of the future, making us feel bad and disconnected to who we really are. Awareness of the current present moment, and realising everything is just fine, is so freeing.  By learning tools like easy meditation techniques such as Mind Calm it can really make a big difference.

How do you make a good decision?

Well now I am very led by my ‘gut instinct’. I believe that tapping into this there is a different type of wisdom/intuition that flows and by using this it is the only way we can flow in the river of life rather than battle against the tide by making decisions with our very limited left brain and logical thinking.

For me the decisions I have made through logic haven’t brought me sustainable happiness and have slowed down my personal growth. If I take a plunge and go with my gut instinct/intuition (despite it being usually a scary prospect) it is so much more rewarding – even if the lesson is a tough one. If it’s a tough lesson it is more like one wax strip removing hair than before it was more of a full and slow body wax!! My life just flows at a much quicker pace, rather than treading treacle like before, and feels exciting and just the way it should be.

If you weren’t you who would you be?

I was struggling with this one because when I think of all the inspirational greats I also think of all their life battles and couldn’t seem to find that one person….and then I sat down with my son to go through these questions. So I choose him. He has such lovely traits, a great life and has such a huge exciting blank canvass of a world of limitless possibilities to paint with such colour into whatever he wants it to be…I am so excited for him that it overwhelms me!

Optimist or pessimist?

An extreme optimist to annoying proportions! But saying that I have recently gained a massive armoury of realism in my tool belt too which is no bad thing.

What is the key to a happy life?

Ooo I like that question. In addition to what I mentioned earlier; appreciating what you have in this moment, always be present and your true Self …..it would definitely be to believe in love and that it really does conquer everything. Not just romantic love I’m talking bigger picture -if everyone was at peace with themselves and understood how to turn fear, jealousy, hatred etc into love, peace and calm (like Derek Mills)- they’d then attract those who aspired to be as happy and so would naturally gain this positive approach and so the ripple effect continues and then hey…guess what – I definitely think world peace would be on the cards!!

A Trip in Dr Who’s Tardis and I find my Web

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19 months ago I had the pleasure of meeting an idol, Robert Holden and was completely awestruck and actually made a bit of an idiot of myself – if he wasn’t such a lovely man he would have definitely called security!

Last night I met him again. This time however, even though he is super famous in my field and still so utterly marvellous, I felt completely confident and grounded enough to speak to him like a fellow human being!!

I felt so different. The awareness of how different I felt was quite stark and therefore emotional for me as I have had such a time of immense learning and growth. Now I am completely “me” …what is the main difference? Well that’s easy, I am present.

19 months ago I hadn’t learnt mindfulness or mind calm and was living in an imaginary projection of a world of hope (and fear) whilst battling with unhealed wounds of the past. Neither option let me be present as I didn’t want to admit to myself the pain I was in, in that moment.

Beautifully this angel, Robert Holden, was gently waiting in the wings until last night where he inadvertently held a mirror of my journey. Through Robert’s evening of incredible, very real, vulnerable and yet spectacular wisdom I also got beautiful clarity of a signpost to my next step.

It simply said “Vicky, it’s ok to need”. Phew, such a relief. Unbelievably so. The drive of being a single parent, self employed and romantically single is one of independence. It does serve well and has got me to a place I am proud of as I have re-built “me”. But with that independence the self-protection is naturally woven like a spiders web after a painful break up or divorce and is also just as invisible until you get that little bit of sunshine that shows your web of separateness.

We are all in this together. This thing called life is tricky, but so many loving souls want to help us along the way. So Roberts message is to ask yourself what is your wisdom of independence? Interdependence is a beautiful thing that is made of the ‘love’ stuff.

Wouldn’t that be more aspirational?

So today I’m opening up. Confidently knowing who I am I can now wipe away my web of protection (eek!) and I am ready to say to the universe “I am here”.

Love, Love, Love

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Love binds our stardust.

Love is the antidote
to pain, anguish and fear.

It’s about choosing love,
the less tangible,
but most emotive
and unconditional.

Love never disappears,
Love never leaves us,
We just forget now and then.
To Love.

But it’s always there
Gentle reminders everywhere.

A stranger, A butterfly, A book

So if you forget to love,
Simply remember to look.

It’s patiently waiting for you
to notice and remember.
And to be Love.
It’s the magic of life.

Namaste x